Wednesday, May 27, 2015

March of the Babywearer! Coaching while Wearing

When we found out I would be having my second child in July, one of my first thoughts was “Not during marching band season again!” As a color guard instructor for a local high school’s marching band and competitive indoor winterguard program, the end of summer kicks off a busy season of training camps, rehearsals and performances that lasts from when school lets out in June until early April. My daughter Sam was born in fall of 2011, smack in the middle of this crazy schedule. As a result, I missed the remainder of the season caring for her. As a veteran parent, and a more experienced babywearer, I knew I could handle the demands of coaching with a baby and preschooler with me from the start. So when my son, TJ, was born in the summer of 2014, I started attending BWI meetings as often as I could to learn as much as I could so I could arm myself with as many babywearing skills as possible to help the season run smoothly.
 I did end up missing most of marching band season while I kept TJ away from crowds during his infancy (except for a few short visits to practice and training camps throughout the fall). Sam attended several performances with me, being worn on my back since her feet would often tire during the long walks during warm-ups at marching band competitions and football games. It also kept her close so I know she wouldn't try to join the performance - she thinks she is part of the marching band too! Sam is also not too keen on loud spaces, like crowded football games, so being able to wear her gave her a place for her to be close to me and feel safe while I was still able to help where I was needed with the marching band.
By time indoor colorguard training began in November, I started taking TJ to rehearsals with me. Kept close to me, on front or on back, TJ experienced 5 months of rehearsals and performances while being kept safe, close and secure. As an added bonus, with TJ being worn, I had two hands to help keep Sam from becoming too overzealous about performing during practice, too. Saturday rehearsals and shows are the most demanding days in the winter competition season, and my students found it amazing that TJ would sleep for an hour or more in his carrier while I did my job coaching them. The high schoolers would watch in amazement as I would hoist TJ on my back, snap up my SSC or tie off my wrap all while counting off a warm up or giving performance feedback.
TJ rarely fussed or whined while being worn because I was able to read his hunger cues and respond to his needs very quickly since he was so close to me. Feedings and diaper changes gave him breaks from being worn. On days when practice or performance demands lasted more than 3 hours, my husband would keep TJ and my daughter home in the morning, bring them to rehearsal for a few hours to be worn, then take them back home for dinner and bedtime. Getting those few hours midday to give TJ a snuggle without really having to abandon my role as a coach was a great way for us to be close in a sometime hectic environment.
I was always overly cautious (and will continue to be) while wearing TJ (and Sam!) and marching band and indoor guard rehearsals and events. I followed the general rule of “don’t do it if you wouldn’t do it while holding a baby/child” and I gave my students a few extra feet of buffer space if they were spinning flags or other equipment near me. I am so grateful for babywearing because this time around I was able to continue teaching and passing on my passion for the marching arts without sacrificing all of my rehearsal time away from my children. I am looking forward to many seasons to come with this band and indoor guard, as they were very open and accepting of babywearing as my solution to being able to juggle parenting and coaching together.  Who says you can’t do it all?
 
Posted by Stephanie N.

Monday, May 4, 2015

Wearing Through Chronic Pain

Over the last 3.5 years, I've lived with two conditions that have caused me quite a bit of pain. The
first, Hidradenitis Supperativa, caused me to have a wound under my arm for 3 years that just
wouldn't heal. I also suffered with chronic back pain and pelvic pain from my third pregnancy and
birth in three years. I have always worn my babies, but over the last year it got to be considerably
harder. I had to improvise a lot to find carries that were supportive enough for my back but
wouldn't put pressure on my underarms. Some people might say, “why not just use a stroller?”
There is nothing wrong with using a stroller. We do that, too! However, babies want to be close
to their parents, and their parents often want to keep them close. Keep in mind, too, that many of
us that have back pain have a harder time with holding our baby in arms than we do with using a
baby carrier.
These are a few of the things that I learned while wearing with chronic pain over the last few
years. Remember that every person's situation is different. What worked for me may not work for
you.
1. There weren't very many wrap carries that didn't put pressure under my arms. I loved double
hammock for my back, but the ruck straps really hurt after a few minutes.
2. Every SSC fits differently. This was a really good thing for me. The thing that worked best for
me was to find SSCs that allowed the straps to cross. While these carriers were originally intended
to be worn with the strapped cross for a front carry, I found that I could do the same for a back
carry. Onya and O&A carriers are examples of SSCs with straight straps that are easily crossed. I
also really like Blue­Kangaroo. These SSCs have straps that are designed to rub your underarms
less than other SSCs.
3. Mei tais and half­buckles with wrap straps. I have a Bamberoo half­buckle with wrap straps.
The SSC waist supported the baby really well. I was able to cross the straps to minimize underarm
rub. The wrap straps gave me extra support since I wasn't able to tie tibetan, which is my favorite
way of tying mei tai straps. You don't have to spend an arm and a leg to get a mei tai or half
buckle with wrap straps, several wrap manufacturers make them these days.


4. It's okay to use a stroller or just sit down and enjoy your baby if the pain is too much. There
were some days when all I could do was just hold my baby in arms. That's okay!
If you have special situations like chronic pain, it's a great idea to reach out to your local
Babywearing International VBEs (Volunteer Babywearing Educators) to see if they have any
suggestions. Even if they don't have an answer right away, they have access to a large network of
babywearing educators that may be able to help you with your current situation. Remember:
sometimes you may not be able to wear your baby as much as you would like while you are in the
middle of a pain flare. It's okay to take breaks and hold your baby or do whatever you need to do
to make things work for your family.

Friday, April 24, 2015

It's Spring! We Celebrated!

Babywearing International of DC-MD-VA was thrilled to celebrate spring this past weekend after a long cold winter.  Our second annual spring celebration took place at Nottaway Park in Vienna, VA.  There were crafts and activities for the kids, socializing, food, and fun for the parents, photo mini-sessions, and more!

Meetings are often so busy and focused on the task of teaching that we miss the opportunity to get to know folks.  So, we love the chance to let down our hair and have a little fun.  While the primary goal of the spring celebration is social, the celebration also offers a chance to raise a little money to support our large chapter, I think the final tally between donations and mini-sessions was around $200.  So, thanks so much for all you do to support our mission to make babywearing a universally accepted practice.

Take an opportunity to check out some of the fabulous pictures of the event from Seana McCroddan Photography.  Now you know that you don't want to miss our next social event.  Keep an eye on our chatter page on Facebook for Mom's Night Out opportunities, Family Day events, and more.








Wednesday, March 25, 2015

Why don't you recommend? SSC High Back Carries

Today we are starting a new feature.  We are going to explore common suggestions that we don't recommend.  In this post, we are going to cover why we don't recommend high back carries as a standard carry in a soft structured carrier.  The biggest reason is that it is not how the carriers are designed to be worn.  Because soft structure carriers use a heavily padded waist band designed to distribute the weight onto your hips, buckling well above your hips loses that benefit.

Other troubles the can occur when using this method are highlighted below.

 
With the waist just beneath the bust, it doesn't have anything to keep it from sliding down your body as the day wears on.
 
 
Fabric becomes trapped under the child's bottom or hangs way over the waistband making either a poor seat or an overly deep seat.

 
Because of the fabric lost under the bottom, the back of the carrier does not come as high on the child as it could.  The wearer also may not be able to tighten the straps sufficiently.  This mother has the straps as tight as they will go and wants them tighter.

Contrast the same child worn with the same carrier at her mother's waist.


 
The child has a much better seat, she has support all the way up her back, and her mother can get a much tighter fit with her straps.  You can also see the child feels more confident and supported in the carry because in the earlier photo she was holding on to her mother, whereas she has relaxed in this carry.
 
 
Does this mean that if you have a buckle carrier that you like wearing under the bust we are saying you must stop?  No, of course not.  But if you ask us to show you how to use an SSC on your back, we will not demonstrate a high back carry.  And if you come asking for a carrier to do a high back carry, we will recommend a mei tai or wrap as carriers better suited to the task.  There are a few buckle carriers with unstructured waists if you really want a higher back carry and buckles, but they still may not fit your body because of the tightening issue mentioned with the straps.  Hopefully this illustrates more clearly the pitfalls of this popular recommendation.

Wednesday, March 4, 2015

Moving: A Babywearing Story

In the winter of 2010, the day after Christmas, my husband, J, set off to Virginia from California with all of our belongings in one of those big yellow trucks.  I was eight months pregnant at the time, so I flew up about a week later once he and my father in law got everything unloaded.  We moved from a small little two bedroom ground level apartment in a middle of nowhere town to a three story town house on the outskirts of the DC Metro area.  The culture shock was staggering.  Having to haul my huge self up and down all those stairs was exhausting.  Add to that all the things that need to get done after a move like that-new license plates and driver's licenses, figuring out just where in the world the grocery store is, finding a new OB at pretty much the last minute, etc.-I bet you can guess how much unpacking I got done while I was still pregnant.  Not much.  The baby's room got done though!  Two months after the big move, I gave birth to our first son, D.  My first non-baby related thought?  How am I supposed to unpack now?  This tiny human needs to be in constant contact with me.  We left all of our family and friends in California, so we did the best we could unpacking on the weekends while D was sleeping.  That is, when we weren't sleeping ourselves.  


When D was three months old, J went on travel for three months.  I was on my own with this new
baby and a house that was still half full of boxes.  My goal was to have the house put together before he got home.  I started using cloth diapers around this time, and it was while shopping at the local cloth diapering store that I was first introduced to the idea of babywearing.  I walked in carrying D in his car seat, and the first thing I saw was the employee behind the counter wearing her baby in something that looked like a backpack.  I asked her about it. I walked out that day with my first carrier and information about a local babywearing group.


All of this back story to get to the point of this post: how babywearing helped me during our move. What a huge difference it made!  No longer did I have to wait until my son was sleeping to unpack as many boxes as I could before he woke up.  All I had to do was put him in our carrier, and I could get things done.  I had my hands back!  He loved being snuggled up to me, and I loved it just as much.  Probably more.  I managed to get the majority of the house unpacked by the time J got back, and was able to keep my baby close while doing it.  

Fast forward two years, and we found ourselves getting ready to move again.  Packing is enough of a chore without a two year old trying to "help."  For this reason, I wore D quite a bit while packing.  While J was at work, D would play until he started causing trouble, then I'd put him up on my back and continue to pack.  At our new house, D was much more interested in exploring than helping me unpack, but just before we moved I found out that I was pregnant again.  Yay for a new baby!  Boo for being pregnant during the move.  I was EXHAUSTED the entire 40ish weeks, and the only time we got any unpacking done was on the weekends.  Long story short, I again ended up with a new baby, L,  and a house half full of boxes.  Luckily, this time I already knew about babywearing.

Posted by Katelyn


Tuesday, January 20, 2015

If You Don't Put that Baby Down He'll Never Learn...

When you become a parent, the first thing you realize is that everyone has an opinion on how you raise your child.  Many of those people are strangers or acquiantances that are easy to dismiss if their advice isn't helpful, but what about family members and close friends.  We tend to take their advice and criticism to heart.

So, here we set out to debunk some of the regular comments heard by babywearing parents from their family about what they are doing wrong by babywearing.

If you don't stop babywearing, your child will never learn to crawl. 






And they'll definitely never learn to walk:






And if they manage to walk, they will surely not be able to do physical or helpful things:










 
 
 
And they certainly will never be able to go to school or play away from your side.


 
See that pink dot WAY over there?  That's a baby who would only be held by mom for almost 2yrs.  She's a perfectly well adjusted first grader:
 
So, all that to say, babywearing will not keep your baby from growing up to be a normal functioning child.
See, worn babies even get into things:
 
And make you wish that you could do this, at least for a little while.
 
So, tell those helpful relatives that your babies WILL do all of those things.  They are only little for a couple of very short years.  During those years they learn a ton about language (easier to learn when near you speaking), balance (worked harder while worn), and they learn that their parents will ALWAYS be there for them.  This leads to a child who is able to successfully attack the world secure in the knowledge that someone has their back (or had them on their back) ;) 
 
 
 
Posted by Ann Marie


Monday, January 5, 2015

A New Year, A New Leadership Structure

Happy New Year!

In December, the VBEs for BWI of DC-MD-VA voted to move to a board structure.  With this new structure, a smaller number of VBEs will deal with the day to day operations of the local chapter.  As our chapter has grown, the large number of VBEs now assisting our chapter made leadership by consensus challenging.  The new system will have a board of 7 VBEs who will develop policies and make decisions about events, outreach, library, and day to day tasks, then bring proposals for any big changes to the larger VBE pool for a vote.

Now, how does this affect you?  Probably not much at all.  Meetings will continue to be held as they have been in the same locations when possible.  VBEs will continue to be available to assist parents and caregivers at meetings.  Social events will still take place for special occasions such as International Babywearing Week.  The daily operation of the chapter for those outside the leadership will look very similar.  However, it will help streamline systems for the leadership team.

So, without further ado, the new leadership team and their roles.  You can contact the team member listed if you have a question related to their role.  All board members can be reached via email at dcmdva@babywearinginternational.org.

Director/Grand Poobah:  Nicole N.
  - will oversee board operations
Money Czar (aka Treasurer): Angelique M.
 - will oversee and track funds
Scribe (aka Secretary):  Ellen S.
 - will produce minutes, notes, etc.
Education Czar:  Ann Marie R.
 - will handle VBE training and accreditation
Library Czar:  Jessica B.
  - will oversee library acquisition, maintenance, and management
Fundraising/Outreach Chair:  Cynthia C.
 - will oversee fundraising and outreach events and the committees involved
Membership: Reilly D.
  - will maintain membership records and serve as liaison from the board to the members

With this new board we hope that we will continue to provide the quality educational and social outlet that our members have come to expect with increased efficiency.  We look forward to serving you this coming year.

Ann Marie and the board